Have you noticed all this recent language about "living my best life". Ella Mills has been posting on instagram about it. Hardy Caprio and One Acen have been singing about it on my spotify running playlist. Can we assume that living your best life is new language related to a powerful purposeful life that embraces change and our fallibility as human beings? I would like to think so.
We know that living to our values and what is important to us helps us to feel healthier and happier and live longer. It helps us to sleep better, have a greater sense of belonging and connection, It also helps our ability to exercise our imagination and improve our problem solving skills which are critical for survival in this light speed paced world we live in. So, considering everything I have said so far, let's explore the window of imagination for ourselves.
As we grow through life and gain more contact in awareness of our values we will revisit these question often so don't feel like you need to have it all figured out by the end of reading this. Try not to judge any of it as this is an exercise of imagination, self-care and purpose :) There are various ways I use values exploration with all my clients using worksheets and mission statements. However, we always start here with a chat about it together.
What kind of life do you want to live?
Observe what words, images or phrases that automatically come to mind. Allow yourself the space to notice any themes, or descriptions that have a gently touch on your heart strings as you practice being curious. It may be that you start to evaluate what's in your life currently and then compare it with the things or experiences you would like to have. You may have a 5 year plan or avoid it like the plague. Either way, it is a nice way to exercise your ability to think about yourself in a meaningful way.
What is important to us at different times in our lives can change. It depends on the space and phase of life you are in. For example, I used to love going to gigs often when I was in my late twenties/early thirties. It's not that it's not important to me now, it's just that it is less important at this current period in time. I used to socialise several nights a week when I lived in London and now I find myself longing for more time in nature, having less nights out and even the odd broody moment.
You Can Live The LIFE You Want
The other really important part to this exercise is hearing and remembering you can live the life you want. It doesn't mean that it appears overnight but it does require various skills to help you get closer to it, maintain it and work at it. For example, this may not always involve making huge changes. It could that you want to learn appreciate the life you have and would like to have a deeper sense of contentment. In this case it would be looking at the areas where the blocks to contentment arise and targeting that directly and using mindful appreciation skills to be more present from a mind and heart space from moment to moment.
Break them down, start small, pace yourself, stay committed, be patient with the uncertainty and embrace the over all process journey itself.
Change can be overwhelming (pace yourself) and it can also be a source of so much growth and learning. Let others in on your plans, read about how other's done it, ask for advice and reach out where it could be helpful.
WE ALL HAVE THINGS WE WOULD LIKE TO ACHIEVE IN OUR LIFETIME. HOWEVER, THE VALUE IN THE PROCESS IS ABOUT PRACTISING APPRECIATION AND BEING OK WITH WHERE WE ARE AT IN ANY GIVEN MOMENT.